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Xiao Chen 陈晓's avatar

Awh, I had wet eyes sending him to second school first day. I still remember how he and I cried the first day at nursery.

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The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

Mine too! Each letting go is own kind of hard and its own kind of beautiful!

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Crosswind Chronicles's avatar

This one hit hard. As a dad, I feel that line about parenting being a series of goodbyes more than I can explain. From the crib to the bus stop to the driver’s seat, every stage is practice for the next release. College may still be years away for me, but I know the day will come when I have to let go again. Your words remind me that the pride and the ache ride side by side, and that is exactly how it should be.

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The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

Thank you so much. The letting go does prepare us for each next one, but I am always amazed how wholly unprepared I feel.

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Crosswind Chronicles's avatar

Right?? Each stage does prepare us, yet when it arrives it still feels brand new. Maybe that is part of the gift, to be surprised by how deeply we can love and how hard it is to let go.

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Broken Toys's avatar

“Maybe this is why we are so bad at predicting how we will feel in moments like these, because no forecast can capture the way so many emotions can pull at you all at once.” I imagine being in space where there is no up, down, forwards, backwards, there is just a place. Sometimes the emotions take you one way, then the next, then space bends and you make the hop and space flattens and you’re a millions miles away from where you just were and, a moment later back again. But not in the exact same spot, just a millimeter off. All this in the name of ‘becoming’, different. I’ve just summed up your words in a way for me to better understand what you have written. Your words have really struck a chord and given me a better understanding of my own journey. Thank you.

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The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

This is absolutely beautiful and helpful.

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Broken Toys's avatar

This is also so true: “Parenting is, at its core, a long series of goodbyes.” I have two teenage sons and the goodbyes feel daily sometimes.

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The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

Truth!

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Georgena Felicia LPCC's avatar

How many times

Have I said to clients

The mama bird

Has to nudge, push, shove

The baby bird

Out of the nest.

Sometimes the client

Is the mama

Sometimes the bird

Inevitably time moves forward

The push, the flight

Is fraught with emotion

Your future flashes before you

Flapping for all your worth

Success is landing

On the branch in front of you!

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The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

This fantastic. I love being on this journey with you!

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Georgena Felicia LPCC's avatar

I love allowing a spontaneous image to take flight, honoring your inspiration.  PS, on my page I post with the addition of a photo that captures the essence.  Enjoy! and Thank you!!

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The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

I love this so much, thank you for all of this.

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Dr Christine DiBlasio's avatar

I STILL tear up every time that I say goodbye to my daughters. They are well past the college years. yet I hold them tightly in my heart. Forever.

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The Therapist Who Came Undone's avatar

It absolutely aches forever. Those people!!!

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